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Do you ever feel like your whole world becomes wrapped up in a tunnel vision of pain?

It’s easy for this to happen. Sometimes it’s inevitable. Sometimes the pain takes such a hold that life is consumed by pain whether you want it to be or not.

In those seasons, I don’t want my suffering to become my identity, but it is so much a part of who I am that it can start to take over.

Or let me put it this way…

My pain isn’t who I am, but it controls what I can do, and in this world, what you can do is a huge measure of who you are. Continue reading →

12 Questions to Ask Yourself When Going to Work Feels Difficult or Impossible Due to Chronic Pain or Illness

I am not an expert when it comes to managing employment in the midst of chronic pain or navigating work when you have a disability. This is a complex topic that plays out in different ways depending on the individual and the situation.

At the same time, I have some personal experience in this area. I can think of times in the past when going to work was exceedingly difficult and other times when work felt downright impossible because of the extent and persistency of my pain. Continue reading →

Escaping the Guilt and Shame of Chronic Illness and Pain

This post was originally published on Life in Slow Motion on February 16, 2015. I’m reposting it today because (1) I really like this post and (2) I’m feeling tired today so a new post is not going to happen (and I’ve decided to not feel guilty about that ;). Besides, I think we all need ongoing reminders of this! 

The weight of guilt and shame lies heavily on many individuals with chronic pain, illness, and disability. While I have long been aware of this common burden in the lives of many with physical limitations, I was recently forced to pause and truly recognize the extent to which these feelings can take hold. A somewhat offhand comment on one of my posts stopped me in my tracks and caused me to think through this issue more seriously.

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Coping Skills to Manage the Emotional Stress of Chronic Pain

I have seen a line of thinking in some Christians circles that sees coping skills as dangerous because they are just a means of avoiding the real or underlying issues.

“Distracting yourself is dangerous, because you will never deal with what is actually going on in your heart.”

“Why would you use relaxation techniques when you could just pray?”

“The only coping skills I need are reading my Bible and being with God.”

I think I can pull some truth out of each of these statements, but they are also missing a few essential things. Continue reading →

The People I Know Who Suffer Well

Last week I had a dentist appointment, and it was not good news. My gums are significantly receding in what seems to be the worst possible place – right smack dab in the center of my two front teeth.

My husband who is the opposite of an alarmist looked at it and said, “Oh, wow, that does not look good.” Typically, he tries to convince me that everything is just fine when my body does something strange, so these were not comforting words. Continue reading →

Fill Out a Brief Survey and Recieve a Free Audiobook

We are just over one week into 2017, and I am excited to see what this year brings for Life in Slow Motion and life in general.

Would you do me a favor to help me make this blog the best it can possibly be for all my readers?

I have put together a brief 10 question survey to assess the needs and wants of everyone who stops by Life in Slow Motion. I will show my thanks to each person who fills out the survey by providing a free copy of the audio version of one of my books. I have 20 copies available of my first book and 50 copies available of my second book, so act quickly to get your choice!  Continue reading →

Why I Won’t Stop Writing About Chronic Illness and Pain

At some point, I want to broaden my writing. I am contemplating starting an additional blog that will function as more of a professional website where I will write more generally and more broadly about various counseling and mental health issues. Awhile back, I considered turning this blog into my professional blog since I already have a number of followers, but as I considered this, I realized how important it is to me that I keep this blog on a specific focus. Continue reading →

Changing the Questions I Ask Myself During A Pain Flare

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Pain flares tend to send me into fairly predictable downward spirals when it comes to my thinking. My mind begins to race, anxiety sets in, and my thoughts go in unhelpful directions, as I consider how the additional pain is going to affect my schedule over the next week.

Often, behind my anxiety and thoughts, I find a lot of questions. Questions such as…

“Will I make it through X responsibility tomorrow?”

“How bad is the pain going to be this weekend when I have to do Y?”

“How many days will the pain get progressively worse before it plateaus or feels better?”

“Is this flare going to be like the epic one I had last year?”

Typically, these questions head in two different directions.

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How I’m Preparing for 2017

I love the fresh start of a new year. I love planning and preparing, as I consider what I want the next year to look like. The habits and goals that I want to carry forward, the ones I want to leave behind, and the new ways of doing things I want to consider.

This week I have used some specific tools to help me in this process, and I thought I would share them with you in case you might find them helpful as well. Continue reading →

Life in Slow Motion’s Top Ten Posts of 2016

It’s exciting to have another year of blogging under my belt. This year I wrote a number of posts about managing pain through visualization and harnessing the brain’s neuroplasticity. I did a lot more reading, which led to some book recommendations and reviews. And throughout were updates on my life, thoughts on faith and chronic pain, and all sorts of musings!

My biggest goal for this year on the blog was to take the book that I spent 2015 writing and figure out what I was going to do with it. And I did! Out of that book came two small booklets that I self-published, and I feel so good about that decision.

I have a lot of ideas for 2017 that I am looking forward to and can’t wait to announce. For now, here are my top ten posts of 2016 in case you missed any.

Enjoy! Continue reading →

My Favorite Books of 2016

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This year, I got back into reading after so many years of putting it to the side. At the beginning of the year, I set a goal of reading 60 books, and I am excited that I will surpass this by four or five books by the end of December.

I started reading more after I realized that my library offers an app that allows me to borrow ebooks without leaving my home. Hurray! So exciting. I highly recommend checking if your library offers this.

Here are my favorite fiction and nonfiction books I read this year. I think they would make great Christmas presents, or great options to put on your reading list. Continue reading →

A Few Thoughts on Christmas Traditions

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Is it just me, or is the thought of creating Christmas traditions terribly exhausting and overwhelming when you constantly feel unwell?

Yesterday someone asked me if we have any Christmas traditions in my family, and it was the first time I have thought through the fact that, actually, we have exactly zero Christmas traditions.

And, honestly, this made me a bit sad.

It felt hard to explain at the time, but there are reasons we haven’t created any Christmas traditions. Continue reading →

How Writing Brings Healing to Individuals with Chronic Illness and Pain (With Healing Writing Prompts)

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When I first started to blog, I had no idea the immense amount of healing it would bring into my life. I can’t really remember what prompted me to begin posting online. All I remember is sitting down one day and writing about telling our chronic pain stories and my personal description of chronic pain. It felt amazing to get those words on paper, and on a whim, I decided to start a blog.  Continue reading →

Book Release! – When Chronic Pain and Illness Take Everything Away: How to Mourn Our Losses

When Chronic Pain and Illness Take Everything Away: How to Mourn Our Losses. Available on Amazon.com.

Pause for a moment and consider all that you have lost to your chronic illness or pain.

Perhaps you lost a job or thriving career.

Maybe friends or family members  left when they realized your suffering wasn’t going away.

Perhaps you lost your financial stability, emotional calm, or even your faith.

Perhaps all of your dreams and plans for life were ripped out of your hands. Good things that you used to be able to do are no longer possible.

Perhaps…perhaps…you have lost so much to your illness and pain you do not even recognize yourself anymore.

What in the world are we supposed to do when everything has been taken away?

I believe the answer to this question lies in learning how to mourn all that cannot be fixed and all that will never be returned in this lifetime.

“There is no way not to experience the pain, and so in grief, we dive in headfirst, experiencing the pain to the fullest extent, that we might know it, understand it, and move through it, believing God is with us every step of the way.”

When Chronic Pain and Illness Take Everything Away: How to Mourn Our Losses. Available on Amazon.com.

In this book, I hope you will join me in grabbing hold of grief instead of pushing it away. I hope you will join me in processing grief, feeling sorrow, and allowing tears. I hope you will use this book to create grieving rituals, engage with the journaling questions, and find the courage to approach God with your questions. I hope you will find small pieces of healing, even as your pain doesn’t go away.

Will you consider spreading the news about my book to your friends and Facebook groups and social media followers and spoonie communities? I would be beyond honored if you would share what I have written around the web!

When Chronic Pain and Illness Take Everything Away is available on Amazon.com in kindle and paperback formats.

Understanding Why Individuals with Severe Pain and Illness Die by Suicide. And What We Can Do About It.

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It is an undeniable fact that individuals with chronic pain have a higher prevalence rate of suicide than the general population.

Tang and Crane (2006) summarized the results of 12 articles examining correlations between suicide and chronic pain, concluding that individuals with chronic pain are twice as likely to die by suicide than the general population. More specifically, approximately 5-14% of individuals with chronic pain attempt suicide, and about 20% report some level of suicidal ideation. Continue reading →

A Simple Yet Surprisingly Effective Tool to Manage Anxiety

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I have something a little different for you today. I want to share a practical tool I use with some of my clients to help them manage their anxiety.

I know from personal experience that chronic pain and anxiety can come hand in hand. When things are constantly going wrong, it can become easy to get in a mindset of dreading the next day or simply feeling panicky in the moment because the pain is burgeoning out of control.

What I am going to share with you today is an extremely simple coping skill that I has helped many of my clients get through moments of intense anxiety. Continue reading →

Scripture For When You Are Grieving

Scripture For When You Are Grieving

Because my upcoming book is about grieving the losses of chronic illness and pain, I have been thinking a lot about grief lately. I pieced together some of my favorite passages of Scripture that talk about grief and sorrow. I love how Scripture deals with grief so honestly, leading us towards healing, and then allowing us to cycle back towards grief as new losses arise. I hope these words of Scripture bring encouragement to you as you walk through your loss and grief.   Continue reading →

Thoughts from “Being There” by Dave Furman

Being There by Dave Furman

David Furman is a pastor who has disabling nerve pain in both of his arms. Through his personal experience of physical suffering, he writes a manual for those who care for others.

I appreciate the topic of this book. When you are constantly struggling with pain and difficult symptoms, life can easily become self-focused. When pain flares and new symptoms surface, it is difficult to focus on anything other than personal needs, wants, and comforts. Continue reading →

When You Aren’t Getting Better (And It Feels Like It’s Your Fault)

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Sometimes an irksome feeling of guilt creeps in. It’s not the kind of guilt that tells me I should be doing more chores around the house or putting in more hours at work. No, this is the guilt that tells me it’s my fault I am not getting better. I must be doing something wrong that is preventing healing. Continue reading →

Living Right Now

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Someone once told me that I can’t make decisions in the present based on how my body might feel in the future.

I can’t make decisions assuming I will get worse. I can’t make decisions assuming I will get better. I can only make decisions based on the information I have right here and right now. And whatever happens in the future, I can adjust my plans accordingly.

So that is what I am doing. Continue reading →

Why We Need Chronic Pain Awareness Month

Why We Need Chronic Pain Awareness Month

September is Chronic Pain Awareness Month. There was a time when I didn’t fully understand the purpose of awareness months. Sometimes I would look at the runs for such and such a condition, the ribbons and the bracelets, the signs and the events and wonder what that was all about.

Now I get it. Now that I have chronic pain, I realize why awareness is important, and I want to share a few of those reasons with you. Continue reading →

What I Read in August

What I read in August

I’m not sure what happened this month, because I read about twice as many books as I typically read in that amount of time. I think it was a combination of reading a few shorter ones, and the fact that a few this month were ones that I couldn’t put down.

I think I have some good suggestions for you in both fiction and nonfiction categories if you are on the lookout. Continue reading →

The Things I Hope I Never Complain About

The Things I Hope I Never Complain About

I sprayed the lemony-scented cleaning spray onto the wooden piano and smiled in contentment as the cloth pushed away layers of dust.

When was the last time I dusted the piano? I wondered. Have I ever dusted this piano? Yikes. No wonder the dust seems to lie too much of an inch thick.

It feels incredible to have the extra energy, the extra movement ability to complete the chores that usually get left behind.

When did dusting the piano ever feel so darn good? Continue reading →

Four Questions to Consider Before Quitting Physical Therapy for Chronic Pain

Four Questions to Ask YOurSelf Before Giving Up On Physical Therapy for Chronic Pain

It seems important to start this post with a disclaimer. As you read, please remember that I am not a doctor and everything I write here comes from my personal experience. This post should not be taken as medical advice, and you should consult a doctor before attempting physical therapy. In addition, there are certain conditions which can be made much worse through pushing yourself to do too much activity. Please consult a doctor and research your specific condition before making any decisions. Continue reading →

Hope For Chronic Pain is Found in Longing for Heaven

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This is the 4th post in a series on Hope When the Pain Doesn’t Go Away

Where do we find our hope in the midst of chronic pain?

We find it in choice and change, in the small steps we take each day.

We find it in considering the possibility of a better earthly future.

We find it in strength for the present.

And we next find hope in God’s promise of renewed bodies and an eternal future. Continue reading →

Releasing My First Book!! — But God, Wouldn’t I Be More Useful to You If I Were Healthy?

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For anyone who has lost a career because of chronic pain.

For anyone who has ever felt devastated, confused, or less-than because your health prevents you from working a formal job.

For anyone who is stuck at home, imprisoned in bed, feeling unable to do much of anything for anybody.

For anyone who gets up every day to take care of your family through the aches and pains, and wonders if it is enough.

For anyone who has so much to offer, but isn’t sure how to offer it in the midst of chronic pain and illness.

For anyone who have ever said to God…This doesn’t make sense. Wouldn’t I be more useful to you if I were healthy?

My first book releases today, and it was written for you.

Check it out on Amazon.com!

Will you consider spreading the news about my book to your friends and Facebook groups and social media followers and spoonie communities? I would be beyond honored if you would share what I have written around the web!

Update: The second book in the Chronic Pain and the Christian Life Series was released November 15, 2016. It is entitled When Chronic Pain and Illness Take Everything Away: How to Mourn Our Losses. Check it out here

This post was shared on the Chronic Friday Link-up.

Making Progress

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I know that I am making progress. Sometimes writing about progress can feel confusing. I think about times I wrote good news, only to crash and burn a few days later. I think about all those times I let myself feel a flash of hope, only to wish I had never let myself feel hopeful. I think about others who aren’t making progress. Sometimes it’s not fun to read about progress when you aren’t making any.

But in the end, that’s where I am. I know I am making progress, and it is not just a few good days here and there. And if I can’t write what is true and what is happening, then what is there to write about? Continue reading →

Hope for Chronic Pain is Found in Strength God Gives for the Present

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This is the 4th post in a series on Hope When the Pain Doesn’t Go Away

Where do we find our hope in the midst of chronic pain?

We find it in choice and change, in the small steps we take each day.

We find it in considering the possibility of a better earthly future.

And we next find hope in the strength God promises is available to us as we struggle to live through the daily, painful reality of chronic pain. Continue reading →

Hope for Chronic Pain is Found in Considering the Possibility of a Better Future

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This is the 3rd post in a series on Hope When the Pain Doesn’t Go Away

Where do we find our hope in the midst of chronic pain?

We find it in choice and change, in the small steps we take each day.

And we next find hope in God’s beckoning to consider the possibility of a better future. A better life is never a guarantee, but I also know that God specializes in giving good gifts to his children at the most unexpected and needed times. Continue reading →

But God, Wouldn’t I Be More Useful To You If I Were Healthy?

 

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Coming July 12, 2016……

I’m so excited to give you a sneak peek of the book cover for my first e-book. But God, Wouldn’t I Be More Useful To You If I Were Healthy is the first in the Chronic Pain and the Christian Life series, with hopefully many more to come!

Stay tuned! 😀

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